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Common Mistakes that Parents Make

parentingParenting, whether you agree or not, is a difficult job and I can comfortably say that no one is perfect but we do our best to deal with those little thingies. If you recently happened to have the honor of becoming a parent then you don’t need to worry about how good of a parent you are just because the kid isn’t making your life enough hell, it takes years to master this craft. A few days ago I read this article named “The 20 Most Common Parenting Mistakes, According to a Family Psychologist” on a website called babble.com. The article gives a pretty useful insight into daily life common mistakes that parents make while struggling with their kids.

I decided to use my dark sense of humor to write funny responses to all of these tips for the sake of fun and quick peek at the useful knowledge in the article.

1- Giving them too many choices: Even though you have to bow down to the will of the masters every now and then but giving them many choices make them stubborn and mean, and we don’t- I don’t have to complete this sentence.

2- Praising them for everything they do: Don’t it a reasonable amount is good and boost their confidence, over-doing it makes them dumb. Don’t make them dumb.

3- Trying to make the child happy: They are more annoying when they’re happy, I’m in complete agreement with this one.

4- Overindulging them: Overindulging=spoiled brat. Enough said.

5- Keeping them too busy: Lower energy, more grumpiness, more attention required, connect the dots.

6- Thinking “smart” will save them: I like the idea that I’m smarter than someone- at home.

7- Teaching them a strict religion will give them perfect values and save them: ahhh No!

8- Withholding common information about important topics- like sex: Agreed, until they’re like 53.

9- Being hyper-critical of the child’s mistake: You don’t want to break his confidence but being responsive is good.

10- Using shame, shunning or threats: Sure, if they respond to them.

11- Making kids do things inappropriate for their age: Hope you don’t have toddlers because this one would keep you awake at nights figuring out what’s inappropriate.

12- Not limiting screen time: This psychologist doesn’t want me to have a moment of peace.

13- Not letting kids get bored: How do you, when do they, why would you- I don’t know what he’s talking about.

14- Protecting kids from their own consequences and loss: I’m usually a “high-five bro” kinda guy in such scenarios so I don’t have any problem here.

15- Not letting kids explore the outdoors: It’s usually a win-win when they’re outside the house so a massive approval for this one.

16- Not debriefing kids at bedtime: It is one the cutest moment of their day if they decide to talk about it or already haven’t told their mommy, So…

17- Not reading to very young children: Kids books are so colorful and beautifully animated, and I love them!

18- Pulling pacifiers too soon: They look cute; I’ll pack some for their college too.

19- Not regulating food: Good eating habits stay for life, I totally agree with this one.

20- Spanking children older than 5: Spanking is not my thing as a parent, I’m more of a wrestle-mania kinda guy.

The Change in Parenting Over Time

parents-online-adviceWith the down of a modern era, as our lifestyles changed so did change our interaction with our kids and parenting techniques. Obviously, a lot have changed since I was a kid but it feels nice to know that there are certain factors that haven’t changed a bit and reminds you of your own cheerful memories. One of the major changes that I have noticed since I was a kid is society’s approval for stay-at-home dads or as I like to call us house bands.

With women taking equal part in every field of life and being able to provide for their families this change can be seen in a lot more families as compared to my childhood. Of course, there still are a lot of people out there who think that women should stay locked at home and men should be the breadwinners of the family but I am very hopeful that they will soon find a way out of the dark sexist corners of their brains. One can only imagine their confusion about same-sex couples that who should be the provider in those families. On this topic, I’m really disappointed how same-sex couples are never focused on in any advertising campaign like usual heterosexual couples are.

One of the major change that I have noticed between me and my kids’ childhood is, in my times, we use to focus more on outdoor activities for the sake of entertainment and we did had a lot of options back then but their focus is usually on indoor activities like video games, T.V and you all know the list. One of the main reasons for this change is the technological advancement in the entertainment industry and unavailability of parks and forests due to extensive movement of people to the urban areas.

I still try best to indulge my kids in outdoor sports and expect them to do the same with their kids. One of the major reasons which keep our kids from playing outside is the exhaustion from the daily-load of school homework they have to do. I can just tell by the weight of their school bags that a lot have changed in the education sector since I was a kid. I know, education is a preparation for the practical life but it seems unreasonable sometimes that instead of being a kid, they are working so they would work more in the future?

In our times, the only concern of our parents used to be our unnatural stamina to continuously watch television but now when we are in their shoes, we have to deal with I pads, smartphones, video games, and not forget television too.

You can’t blame them for getting more than half of their day wired with a computer or a laptop because they have to be I.T literate and live their lives with these current trends. All you can do is to show them what the outdoors have to offer and how they should moderately use technology for the sake of entertainment and networking.